Thursday, February 5, 2015

Review: Love Me Slender by Thomas Bradbury and Benjamin Karney

By combining provocative new research about health with longstanding principles of couple communication, Love Me Slender develops the surprisingly fresh idea that we can all become healthier when we team up with our partner to eat right and exercise more—giving us better moods, more energy, and a closer relationship. 

Eat right. Stay active. Sleep well. Good health follows from a few simple habits, yet millions of us struggle every day to put these habits into practice. Love Me Slender offers new solutions based on a remarkable insight: the powerful connection we share with our mate can determine what we eat, how much we exercise, how well we age, and how long we live. Strengthening this connection, and using it to influence our daily habits, holds the key to better health. 

Over the course of their twenty-year collaboration, Drs. Thomas Bradbury and Benjamin Karney have witnessed how difficult it is for partners to give each other the support they both really need—especially around emotionally loaded topics like unhealthy eating habits and weight loss. As co-directors of The Relationship Institute at UCLA, they draw upon their decades of research to explain how to harness the power in our relationships to live healthier lives. By analyzing hundreds of conversations of couples seeking to change their eating and exercise habits, Bradbury and Karney have identified the specific principles that determine whether couples struggle or succeed in their quest to improve their diets and burn more calories. 

Chock-full of case studies, self-assessments, and sound practical advice, Love Me Slender is an eye-opening, uplifting guide that shows relationship partners how to discover the right ways—and how to avoid the wrong ways—of supporting one another in their lifelong pursuit of better health.

Received for review.

I wanted to like this, I really did, but it turned out to be rather a letdown.  It's written by men so it shouldn't be too surprising that the main focus seemed to be how husbands can get their wives to lose weight and get back into the shape they were when they got married.  There is some discussion of the husbands, but the main focus seems to be on the women and how the men can get the women to change, such as teaching your wife to diet.

I didn't find this eye-opening or uplifting.  On the contrary it seemed like the authors genuinely had no personal experience with weight loss.  Perhaps they manipulated their wives into losing weight, but they personally didn't.  They just didn't seem to have the viewpoint of people who had actually been through a weight loss journey.

Overall there were some informative bits but the vast majority was about changing other people and that will never work, especially with something like weight loss and fitness.  I really cannot recommend this.

★★☆☆☆ = Just Okay

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