Kathy Zengolewicz, author of My Dragonfly: And the Lessons He Taught Me, stopped by today for an interview.
Can you tell us a little bit about yourself?
I grew up in Philadelphia in a family of five, one sister and three brothers. Dad worked two jobs and when I turned 4 yrs old, mom went out to work just to make ends meet. I came from a very big family. My mother was one of nine, she had two sisters and six brothers, who all lived close by, so I was surrounded by family during most of the years of my childhood. My dad passed when I was young, 11 yrs old. I attended 12 years of Catholic school, and met my husband in the late 60's and married my him in 1970. I have five children, 5 grandchildren and one great-grandson. After my son died in 2012, after dealing with the grief, I decided it was time to find my calling and follow it. I am a person who loves to read, write, craft and spend as much time with my family as possible.
What do you do when you're not writing?
When I am not writing I am helping others through my life coaching work. I teach others to live according to the laws of attraction. I am psychic medium and I use my gifts to help others.
When did you first start writing?
I think I started writing in high school. I was one of those kids who loved to pen essays, yeah I guess I was a little bit nerdy. I liked to write about the things that were in my surroundings, the beauty of nature, those types of things.
Is there any particular author or book that influenced you in any way either growing up or as an adult?
Although My likes seem to wander to the macabre. I like Steven King and Dean Koontz. But partial to Koontz and King, I read many authors, too many to list here.
What inspired you to write this particular book?
Writing my book, "My Dragonfly" who represents the son I lost to drug addiction, has led me to where I am today. I have learned to heal and I am on this Earth to help those who have shared my pain and loss. I have put down into words the things my son taught me, in spirit, and I apply those things to my everyday life.
What was your favorite chapter (or part) to write and why?
I loved writing about the way I communicate with my son, while he is in spirit. Writing about how devastated I was going through this tragedy has helped me to put it in perspective, to get past the grief and just keep Walt in my heart.
What is best writing advice you can give?
Anyone who wants to start writing as a career or just a hobby needs to establish a disciplined routine. Make time to write, everyday, even if it’s for 15 minutes at a time. Sit and write, about anything. Once you start, you’ll surprise yourself with what you can do. If you need a little bit of help, do a Google search: search blog topics, story writing ideas. You’ll get a lot of ideas with those two search topics.
Is there anything else you'd like your readers to know about the book?
Yes, I would like everyone who reads the book to take something away from it. I have pretty much open my heart and soul writing My Dragonfly. The feedback that I have received from people who read it has been very positive. I have been blessed by people telling me that the book has answered some questions that they had about death, grief and moving on. If this book helps just one person to feel better about the loss of a loved one, especially a mother who has lost a child then it was worth writing.
About the book:
Dealing with changes throughout life in our own way, through faith and spirituality
When you lose a child, the world stands still. The birds no longer sing, the sun no longer shines. You feel as though you are alone, even in a room full of people. Grief is a terrible five-letter word. It ’s easier to climb a mountain than to get past grief unscathed. Kathy deals with the grief and with the loss that was the cause of the grief. She has learned to live with the grief but under her terms. It is her passionate hope this book can shed some light on the ways that you can conquer grief, kick it to the curb, and create a new life filled with love, peace, and joy.
Kathy and her husband have been married since 1970. They have raised five children: a police officer, a fireman, a master plumber, and an accountant. One son is in spirit. They have five grandchildren and one great-grandson.
My Dragonfly represents the son they lost to drug addiction in September of 2012. Kathy has written My Dragonfly to help others who have lost children, to let them know that their life matters, and to help them find the healing they need to feel whole again. If this book helps just one person or one mother who has lost a child, then it was well worth writing.
Learning to live a conscious life has helped Kathy to move toward her goals of manifesting her true life path and helping others who may be searching for meaning in their lives.
About the author:
|Kathy was born and raised in Philadelphia, PA. She is the youngest of 5 children. She met her husband in the last 1960’s and they married in 1970. She and her husband have five children, five grandchildren and one great grandson.|
Kathy works out of her home office in Northeast Philadelphia. Aside from her writing, Kathy has a life coaching practice where she teaches others to live according to the Laws of Attraction.